My Hero, My Mom

During her battle with cancer, but never without a smile

Today, August 31, 2011, marks the 5 year anniversary that my Mom, Kim Respess, left this Earth. After a 2 year battle with cancer she lost the fight 5 years ago today, but even though she is not here anymore she is still in the hearts of all of us that knew and loved her. Let me tell you a little bit about my hero…

She was born in Raleigh, North Carolina on June 16, 1963 to Ralph and Glena Freeman. She is the youngest of three girls (Donna and Abbey her older sisters), but that is just the general stuff. My Mom never once met a stranger. She could talk to any and everybody and it blew my mind. We would be in line at Wal-Mart and she would be striking up a conversation with whoever happened to be around. She loved dogs and throughout my 25 years we have had a number of them Shana, Chesney, Chewy (he looked just like Chewbacca from Star Wars), Chancey, Chester, Yoda, Scooby Doo, Cookie Monster, Angel, Cinnamon, Isabella, and Jackson. She loved to read and play video games (she dominated Ocarina of Time!). My little brothers and her would spend loads of time playing Gauntlet Legends on the Nintendo 64. She loved to cross stitch (I still have the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles one she did for me). Her favorite movies were Breakfast Club and Beetlejuice. She loved to watch TV, but most of all she loved us. She would do anything in her power to make us happy.

I can remember one time for Easter she gave me a coupon book. It had different things in it she came up with like go to the batting cages with Dad one day or get out of doing the dishes one night. I remember using one to go with her to see Indian in the Cupboard at a theater that no longer exists. Around Christmas in 1994 when The Santa Claus came out my Dad, Mom, and I went to see it at the theater (also not there anymore) by Gwinnett Place Mall. We would sit at the kitchen table and play Yahtzee! and peanut. It really is strange the memories you hang on to.

When she got sick it was a shock to us all and pancreatic cancer usually takes whoever it has a hold of very quickly, but my Mom was strong! She fought it for two long years. Over those two years I never once heard her complain about the pain even though I know it had to be ungodly. She never once asked, “Why me?” She just fought and stayed strong. If we were all half as strong as her, then we could move mountains. When she was in the hospital and had all the tubes coming out of her she was comforting me because I couldn’t bear to see my Mom like that. It hurt so much to know that she was in pain and that I was going to lose her. She was the best! I know that she is in a better place and free of pain, but every single day I miss her.

My Dad wrote a blog about her fight http://kimsbattle.blogspot.com/ go read it. It shows just what the battle with cancer looks like up close.

I miss you. I love you.
Your Son,
Alex

5 thoughts on “My Hero, My Mom

  1. Beautifully said Alex. I, too, miss your mother. She was a true inspiration to all of us that knew her. I know that she is so proud of you and all that you have accomplished.

    Love,

    Sydney

  2. Alex:
    What a beautiful letter. Your mom would be so proud of you and your accomplishments! She would absolutely love the kind and giving man you have become.

    Stay strong.

    Love ya,
    Uncle Bob

  3. One of the greatest things I heard after my mom passed away (also 5 years this year) was from Chris – I was whining about how different life is without her and how badly I miss her. Then he put it in perspective – she’s not here for me to hug, but the day she passed I got the biggest cheerleader I could ever imagine…cheering me on in absolutely everything I do.
    Remember that Alex, your mom is right there cheering you on and oh so proud I’m sure.

  4. Alex: This is beautiful. I know your mom is so proud of you and everything that you are doing to change the world!! She sounded like a wonderful person. Thank you for sharing your heart with all of us! So sorry for your loss…..

  5. Hi Alex, I agree, it is amazing the memories that one holds on to after a loved one passes on…I lost my mom to gastric cancer 5 years ago at the end of July. Unless you’ve lived through it, one cannot truly understand all the emotions that you experience when you see your loved one slipping away. She is with you always, and will forever live on in you and your family. Hugs