Q & A #2

For this weeks Q&A I have decided to go with one pretty substantial question. Yes, I know I said I would do a number of them each week, but I feel that this particular question warrants a good deal of thought. So, without further ado here is this week’s question courtesy of Amanda:

I’ve dealt with a fear of failure as I’ve worked on my weight loss.  It has held me back in the past because I would lose weight only to gain it all back double. This time I’ve really just decided failure is not an option, but that fear still rears it’s head every now and then. Did you deal with fear of failure, and if so, how did you overcome that?

During my journey I knew that I would have millions of people see my results. That could have been enough to have me cowering in the corner with fear. I didn’t so much see it as a fear of failure though, but more as an incentive to succeed. I knew that if I failed I would have to answer to millions. However, there was one person in those millions that I had to look in the eye everyday and that was myself. I couldn’t let myself down again. I had taken on this challenge and I was determined to succeed.

The fear of failure is very real and while I might not have that particular fear there are many who do. I think it’s alright to have that fear as long as you don’t let it hold you back. You need to fight against it. You may lose a battle with it every now and again. That is understandable, but you CAN and MUST win the war.

Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising every time we fall. – Confucius

Amanda, when that fear decides to rear its ugly head again. CHOP. IT. OFF! You may have a bad day where you run for the comfort food, but just remember that you have control. Choose to not make it two bad days, or three bad days. Look at the bad day. See what you did wrong. Learn from your mistake and correct it the next day. You can’t rewrite history, but you darn sure can write a happy ending. As long as the pen is in your hand the story is yours.

What will the end of your story be?

A-Train

8 thoughts on “Q & A #2

  1. My fear of failure has been paralyzing so much I have been having a hard time to start again. 20 years of morbid obesity and try and fail of many diets and even gastric has been a huge dissappointment & ebarrassment and Im plain worn out because weight has been the center of my world for 36 yrs.
    A year ago today I started the journey once again lost 100 lbs and then the slack mode came in. I think the boredom of doing the same thing day in and out I started grasping for encouragement and to no prevail started slipping. Before I knew it 3 weeks were gone and its a year now and all the weight is back too. Like others I have failed so many times that my fear is that this lack of motivation is just me accepting this is my life! YIKES I have been really thinking the last few days its time to get moving again and I really needed to hear this today. thank you

  2. AMEN, and well said Alex. I totally identify with her. I have tired to lose my weight so many times starting back when I was 17 years old ( I am now 33) and evertime I failed and gained more and more weight. I have found what is different for me this time is that there isn’t any other option. I have NO choice but to keep working at it week after week. It helps to have supportive people who support me when I lose and when I dont. I hope that she can find a team of supportive people who will be there for her no matter what. Amanda you deserve to be the BEST you possible!!!!

  3. Wonderful post with some fine advice. Thank you for sharing. It’s comforting to know other people have gone through the same problems, then you don’t feel so alone. Wishing you all, all the best